Saturday, January 15, 2005

broken men

I have heard that men who blog are doing so as an aid in picking up women. At first glance I believe this to be true. I have noticed that guys who blog tend to show their sensitive side. They are creative and introspective.

Unfortunately, once they have been doing it for a couple of months they tend to start looking weak and vain. And then they start to write about The One That Got Away.

The scenario is always the same. They were in college. They were in love. There was a sense of comfort and intimacy that they have not been able to get even close to again. The girl also always has a Cheshire smile that haunts them.

When I read about The One That Got Away, I feel pity for the guys. Not because they are injured souls, but because they are so sad in the fact they can't understand that the big loves of their lives were flawed, thus were meant to end. If they were meant to end then there is something that will be even better out their for them. The inability of them to be able to recognize this is the true tragedy.

I realize that I was and potentially still am The One That Got Away for someone; I suppose it is a natural progression in life. On the rare occasion I feel lonely sometimes I do think of him and what we had. Fortunately for me I have come to the point in my life that when I do so I also know that I only miss the intimacy, not that particular relationship. I am thankful for my experiences for what I have learned, and look forward to what my future holds. And one of the things that I have learned is not to date someone who still dreams of The One That Got Away.

What is the quote? Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it. Something like that.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

It's amazing how people gloss over the past too. They remember the golden nuggets of how great it all was. Who knows where the truth really lies and what it would have morphed into over time anyway.

Everything must change. Those who live in the past are doomed, period!

I guess everyone can imagine their "one who got away". I love how Chris Rock says, sometimes you'll see your girl looking at you real close and what she's really thinking is, "YOU AIN'T MY FIRST CHOICE"